I do not feel saved

Questions about God, the Bible and the Christian culture

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Question: I was reading what it means to love God with all your heart mind soul and strength, and it said it’s impossible. That makes sense. But it also said, “Christians newly saved are very much aware of the love of God and their love for Him.” Or another way to say it is “on fire” for God. I never had that “fire” love for God. Am I truly saved?

Also, It said you can’t love someone you don’t know… which also makes sense. But even after reading the Gospels, I still don’t love God like I think I should. I feel no love at all, to be honest. I’m not even all in for God because I don’t think I’m saved — and even if I am, why is God not helping me?

I also read that Jesus loved us and had compassion. But that doesn’t go to my heart either. Reading the Bible is like reading any book. So, I have to ask, was I ever born again? As of right now, I’m so confused so helpless and faithless. I don’t even know what to pray. Don’t even read His Word. I feel like a robot. I don’t think I’m saved… and it’s a bit overwhelming. I feel God wants too much from me, and I don’t know what to do anymore.

Answer: Greetings friend. Thank you for touching down with us at Mainsail Ministries — and thank you for asking a question that resonates with me personally. I rarely feel saved! I too have moments of introspection just like yours! But I am sure that I am saved… and I suspect that this is true of you too. Let me share why I think this is so.

First and foremost, believers in God who are “worried” that they might not be saved are usually saved. The “worrying” proves that. People who are “worried” like this understand that they are not worthy of salvation. These are candidates for (or veterans of ) laying their sins at Jesus’ feet.

If this has been your experience growing up, your “normal” feelings are that of a saved person. So, what do you expect to feel other than what you usually feel — spiritually driven emotional highs? Not only are these rare, they are rare by definition! Because of this, you should not expect to run after Jesus like a man chasing the girl of his dreams… not continually anyway.

Don’t get me wrong, this type of love is rare and wonderful! It’s just not continual. That’s what you seem to be bemoaning… the lack of emotional “wow-ness” in your ongoing life. Take it from a seasoned veteran, continual wow-ness is an unrealistic expectation. First, we could not sustain those emotions continually (... and I don’t think you would want them continually). Second, a life of continual highs would desensitize you to the very things that God wants you to be sensitive about... like sin, the eternal peril of people and the necessity of a Savior.

Also, let me encourage you to be a little patient with yourself. You have the capacity to carry these things within your normal emotional state. But you are still a teenager; your brain and emotions will continue to change over the next few years; you will become hardier. So, if all else fails, just hang in with God as he hangs in with you. Now back to your question.

I assume that you grew up in a Christian home (and/or the Christian culture). But friend, the Christian culture saves no one. The Christian person, however, saves everyone… all who come to him in faith (Ephesians 2:8). Have you broken free from the cultural clichés you’ve grown up with and taken ownership of Jesus Christ yourself? Have you “received” Jesus in a mature way... in a way that’s making a difference in your life?

If you haven’t, you are not regenerated... and “old creatures” have no right to expect the feelings reserved for “new creatures” (2 Corinthians 5:17) ... people who are born again by the Spirit of God (1 Peter 1:3). You see, being born again (John 3:3) is tied to hope... and you seem to be experiencing a moment of hopelessness. This will pass... but the apostle Paul wants you to examine yourself... to see if you are the real deal! (2 Corinthians 13:5).

I will give you a link to some facts about salvation so you can check for yourself whether you have indeed been born again. Now, I’m going to assume that you are born again… that you are a genuine Christian who is simply not “feeling it.” But it’s helpful every so often to challenge your notions of something as basic as what salvation is... and it is with that spirit that I offer you this link. Click here.

A Christian man whom I’ve grown to admire over the years is Dr. J.P. Moreland. He belongs to one of the Vineyard churches (which are charismatic). Now, I do not identify as charismatic — but throw that objection out. Dr. Moreland wasn’t “feeling it” either... and he talked very candidly about to about this to an auditorium full of people. His talk is well worth a listen for a person who isn’t “feeling it.” To hear Dr. Moreland, click here.

My purpose is to affirm your feelings and to let you know that you are not alone. I have been asked this question before — and one person sticks in my mind. She had a question very much like yours. So I’m going to include her entire Q & A… hoping that you might find even more hope by looking over the shoulder of a fellow sufferer. Click here to read her question. God bless you.


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